4 маленькие, но важные привычки счастливых пар

Как утверждал Лев Толстой, все счастливые семьи счастливы одинаково. И, действительно, у крепких пар есть нечто общее, что помогает им бережно хранить свои отношения в течение долгих лет.

Мы решили узнать, что же советуют люди, которые живут в радости и гармонии.

1. Никогда не уходите из дома не попрощавшись

На первый взгляд, это кажется совершенным пустяком, но поцеловать и сказать «до свидания!» своему любимому, даже если вы опаздываете, — очень важно. Это прощание должно быть некой традицией, показывающей вашу заботу и создающей настроение вашему самому близкому человеку на весь день.

2. Ежедневно разговаривайте тет-а-тет

Это необходимо. Спросите его или ее, как прошел их день, расскажите о своем. Сделайте друг друга частью тех моментов дня, где вы не могли присутствовать. Зачастую пары пренебрегают этим, а тем временем у этой привычки есть власть укрепить либо разрушить ваши отношения.

Не откладывайте разговор на завтра, иначе это превратится в привычку. Ведь завтра будет новый день, новые события, новые изменения в жизни вашей второй половинки, которые вы не заметите.

3. Говорите «Я люблю тебя»

Не существует неправильного способа сказать эту фразу. Каждый раз, когда вы говорите это, даже после многих лет, эти слова будут иметь все то же значение. В отношениях люди часто развивают в себе различные комплексы, например, переживают, что они не привлекательны, не достаточно хороши для вас, что из-за этого вы отдаляетесь. Вы можете избавить свою половинку от этих мыслей, всего лишь повторяя, что вы любите ее.

4. Удивляйте друг друга

Это вовсе не значит, что вы должны дарить друг другу дорогие подарки или устраивать торжественные ужины. Достаточно просто неожиданно поцеловать в щеку любимого человека, сказать, что каждый день понимаете, как вам повезло, и что не ошиблись с выбором. Даже маленькая неожиданность вносит искру в отношения.

TO THE NEXT GIRL WHO FALLS IN LOVE WITH HIM

Art by Eritrea Studio

That boy is something else, isn’t he? You probably did a double take when you first saw him. Perhaps you gushed about him to your friends non-stop the first time you stayed up all night talking to him. I know, I’ve been there. It probably feels weird reading this right now, but I just want to you to know a few things about this boy whom you can’t seem to get out of your head, and maybe even share a few advices for when he frustrates the life out of you.

First, I want you to know that you are in for a heck of a ride. Loving him will be one of the most exhilarating experiences of your life. I had the privilege of sharing 13 months of love, life and adventure with him, and it’s safe to say that those were some of the best months of my life. I hope you’ll hold his hand and let him know you’ll be beside him as he explores new places, discover new things and meet new people.

Also, I hope you’re at least half as weird as him. Once he gets comfortable with you, there’s no telling what sort of crazy things he might start doing. Be prepared to see dozens of photos of him doing all his weird but extremely cute faces. Each one of them are still etched on my brain, and they still make me laugh every now and then. Please roll with it and be yourself around him, too. Create funny dance steps with him and laugh at yourselves when your little brother catches the both of you dancing without any music. When he runs out of things to say, he’s going to say something like “bananas,” and the best you could do is send him some random fruit emoji. Play with his face and create all sorts of ugly faces. Take tons of embarrassing pictures of him and refuse to delete them. Chances are, he’s got a handful of embarrassing photos of you, too. Have tickle fights with him even though you know you’ll lose, and just have fun with him.

Of course, it’s not always rainbows and butterflies. There are going to be times when you would want to tear all your hair off in frustration. Please be a bit more patient and understanding with him. Understand that silence is his way of coping with his anger and frustration. He might not want to talk to you immediately after a fight, but please be patient. Let him have a day off after a fight. He will always come back to you.

It’s best not to start a fight simply because he forgets to reply when he’s busy playing billiards with his friends. If you’re there with him while he’s playing, always stay close to him and talk to his friends. He wouldn’t want you to feel left out. Play with him when he offers, or ask him to teach you how to play; he’d be more than happy to do so. Kiss him when he wins a game. Kiss him even when he doesn’t. Be his ultimate cheerleader.He drives now. I never got to sit shotgun and he never got to pick me up for a date, but I hope you’ll appreciate these little things. He was always excited about being able to fetch me from school and drive to different places, and now he’ll be able to do that with you. Always remember to thank him for it.

Embrace his love for photography. Be his go-to model and give him your honest opinion when he shows you his shots. Go to museums and exhibits with him and fall in love with art as much as you are falling in love with him.

Go the extra mile for his birthday. Chances are he won’t be having a party, and you’ll be the only one who can make him feel like it’s his birthday. You don’t have to give him anything extravagant. He’ll understand if you can’t afford it. Give him bubbles and a toy car for all he cares— it’s being with you on his special day that matters most.

Whatever happens, please don’t try to change him. If he loves you enough, he’ll be willing to compromise some things, but please never try to change him. Accept him completely for who he is. That means accepting his fears, his vices, his past, and his tendency to forget to text you about where he is and what he’s doing. Just remember that you are not perfect, too. You have your flaws yet there he is, loving you just as you are.  And if you’re lucky enough, he might start to change himself for the better, without you forcing it.

Finally, love him as much as you can, for as long as you can. He is one of the most charming, annoying and intoxicating human beings you will ever meet and he is just so beautiful. Know that you are blessed to have been given the chance to love him and be loved by him. If in the end, however, love ends up falling short and you find yourself at the end of your story with him, gently let him go with a smile on your face and thank him for all the wonderful memories you shared together. You are allowed to mourn over lost love and cry yourself to sleep for a whole week, but know that it gets better. I hope that like me, you can look back fondly at all the times you spent together and know for sure that the happiness he brought into your life was so much more than the sadness that came after. I hope that like me, you will be thankful for that boy with the perpetually sleepy eyes who taught your sleeping heart how to truly live and love.

Have you ever encountered someone, heard their story and you’re like, “Damn, they hurt him?” because no matter how much you spend so many sleepless nights thinking of any single reason why they should hurt him, none of which was reasonable enough.

When you ask him if he’s okay and he agrees even when you know he’s not, you suddenly just feel like stretching your arms over the phone and squeeze him with hugs until he complains he can no longer breathe.

When he says no one will ever love him, you shake your head all the time and disagreeing because you do.

When he complains about his weight and feels so little about himself, you just feel like shutting his mouth up and tell him that those imperfections don’t matter anymore because he’s already amazing the way he is.

Because there’s so much more to him than what meets the eye. There’s so much more to him than his voice when he sings or laughs and obviously so much more than what people see on his Facebook page.

I just don’t understand why people always make him feel like he’s so hard to love when he can pour his whole heart on them.

What he doesn’t know is that those little things he does have the power to make mornings happy, boost mood from lonely to better, and can make hate disappear when you’re curled up in bed crying over a bad guy who left you for someone years ago.

I hope one day he’ll meet someone who can see those little things and I hope one day he’ll have the courage to walk away from people who don’t.

TO THE GUY WHO WILL ALWAYS BE A PART OF ME

It was Saturday afternoon when thoughts of you came over me again. Whenever I think about you, I always try my best to avoid it. Why? Because I know that it will consume me again and the next thing I know is that anxiety and emptiness will constantly hit me up with no assurance when will it end.

It was hard for me to accept things though I always keep in mind that everything happens for a reason. Ever since I met you, my definition of happiness changed. From the usual teenager going out with friends and doing stupid things together to a girl, not actually a Princess spending her time with his Prince Charming. Ever since I was a kid, I was a fan of fairytales and I always consider myself as a Princess. You came into my life in the most unexpected time. I never thought that a warlock or a male witch who used to bully me in grade school would be my knight in shining armor in high school.

The start will always be good. This is where a simple good morning text from you already completes my day. We spend most of our nights together jogging around Ayala Triangle or cheating  our diet to Chicboy’s liempo and torones. Everything was so magical even before you told me you like me. Definitely just enjoying each other’s company and nothing but pure bliss. Then you said you love me.

I didn’t say I love you too right away, instead I made you say it again by asking you what did you say. We looked into each other’s eyes and with conviction you said I love you for the second time. And from that moment, I told myself that I will entrust you my heart and I will love you from that day on. We hugged each other for the longest time, as if we didn’t want to let go. Your arms wrapped around me made me feel safe and secured. You made me feel home.

4 years. We were so comfortable with each other, we knew each other to the very core. My family likes you, they treated you as if you are already a part of the family. We talked about our future like what do we want to do right after college. Our plans of travelling together, especially you bringing me toJapan because you know how much I wanted to go there. Our plans of getting married after 8 years of being together and making our very own family with just two kids. Deciding whether to live in a condo or a real house. And lastly, we shared of how big our dreams are for ourselves. All my life, I am trained to plan ahead. I am particular with my timeline. But you, on the other hand, hate planning. You are the type of person who is very relax, go with the flow and hates planning the future because you told me that you believe that it is better when life surprises you with this-and-that rather than being disappointed because the outcome is different from the set expectations.

As they say, nothing in this world is permanent except change. And so things changed unexpectedly. While I am so focused on planning my future with you, you are so busy creating your future just for yourself. From our love making us feel like on top of the world to a downhill. You chose your friends over me and it made me sad because I am willing to choose you over anyone. I would rather spend my day with you driving around because I know how excited you are with cars, discovering new restaurants and trying out different meals because we both love eating or simply spending the entire day in your house being lazy and doing nothing. I wanted to be your priority because you are my priority, but I can’t fight for that position in your life. I can’t force you to do the same things I am willing to do for you. You ended up spending almost every night with your friends and going home at 3 o’clock in the morning which made me so worried of you. I am worried in a sense that you lack sleep and I don’t want you to get sick and I don’t want you to be absent nor late at your morning classes. You didn’t understand that. It tore me apart, I felt lesser and lesser, doubts are starting to get in, I am in dire need of your assurance, I am slowly getting tired but I always remind myself that this is just a phase, an obstacle that we will both overcome and make through. But we didn’t.

არსებობს 7 ძირითადი კანონი, რომლითაც სამყარო ცხოვრობს

1. გაბათილების კანონი

თუ თქვენ გჭირდებათ ახალი ფეხსაცმელი, გადაყარეთ ძველი. თუ თქვენ გჭირდებათ ახალი ტანსაცმელი, გაასუფთავეთ  თქვენი კარადა.  თქვენი ნებით უნდა დათმოთ თქვენივე სტერეოტიპები. ახალი მოდის მხოლოდ მაშინ, როდესაც თავს დააღწევთ ძველს.

2. ცირკულაციის კანონი

მზად იყავით იმის დასათმობათ რაც გიყვართ და რასთან განშორებაც გიჭირთ იმისთვის, რომ მიიღოთ რაც ყველაზე ძალიან გსურთ.

3. წარმოსახვის კანონი

წამოიდგინეთ თქვენთვის იდეალური დღე,დაწერეთ ის და წააკითხეთ ადამიანს ვისაც ბოლომდე ენდობით. შეინახეთ თქვენი წარმოსახული ბედნიერი დღე და თავისუფალ დროს წაიკითხეთ ხოლმე.

4. შემოქმედების კანონი

ადამიანს შეუძლია მიაღწიოს კეთილდღეობას თავისივე აზროვნების,ფანტაზიის და ინტუიციის წყალობით.

5.  გაცემის და მიღების კანონი

თუ გასცემთ რამეს ის ათმაგად დაგიბრუნდებათ. თუ მიიღებთ რამეს აუცილბლად გაუზიარეთ სხვებს და თქვენი ცხოვრებაში გაცილებით ბევრი კარგი რამ მოხდება.

6. მეათედის კანონი

სამყაროს ყოველთვის მიაქვს თავის მეათედი. ეს არის კანონი მადლიერებისა. თქვენ არ იცით და ვერ ხვდებით როდის ან რა სახით იბრუნებთ უკან დაკარგულ მეათედს. თუმცა ეს შეიძლება იყოს ახალი მეგობარი, ან თუნდაც გამოჯანმრთელება.

7. შენდობის კანონი

თუ თქვენ არ შეგიძლიათ პატიება , გაგიჭირდებათ თქვენთვის განკუთვნილი ბედნიერების მიღება. თუ თქვენი სული სიძულვილითაა სავსე,სიყვარული ადგილს ვერ იპოვის თქვენში. უნდა ეცადოთ თავი დააღწიოთ უარყოფით ფიქრებს და ემოციებს თავი.

‪#‎ReaderSubmission‬: by Mui Aka

If lovers didn’t fight,
Love would not have existed.
In love, you need to indulge in fights-
Be a little louder than usual,
Complain, argue
Cry.
Do the fiercest of things
Shut room doors randomly,
Sit alone,
Make single coffees,
Read books pretentiously,
Die out of jealousy
And go crazy
Beyond cardiac and cranial responsibilities.
And once you have released
All the anger and fury,
Love will bind you back,
Love promises to bind you back,
Stitch your pages
Into a book.
This will happen,
This needs to happen.
For,
Love
Demands
Everything.
And, everything includes both
The Good
And the Bad-
And that is why
Love is
Everything.
That is why,
When lovers fight,
The fight ends with a
Criminal
“I love you.”
And that is why,
Love is love
And not anything else.
But remember-
If lovers didn’t fight,
Love wouldn’t have existed.

‪#‎ReaderSubmission‬ by Jihad Mahmoud

In a love relationship, I believe "little things" are the most important, these sweet little gestures of care, like a flower with a "love you" note, her favourite chocolate with a red ribbon around, an "I miss you" message, a heart drawing with her letter on the mirror, a surprise ticket to her favourite singer's live concert, etc. They have no end, those little things. And they're usually dearer and more precious than any other expensive gift that you could get her. Because let me tell you something, if she truly loves you, she wouldn't care about the "what" as much as she'd care about the "how" and the "why".

The "how": Do these little things with love and it'll pass right through to her, a direct cupid arrow into her heart. Do not throw her the flower and right away give her your back and leave. Rather offer her the flower with pure love in your eyes and an open heart in your chest eager to hear the happy beats of hers racing and even missing one, out of her overflowing love for you. Wear your heart on your sleeves and wait for her love to show, expect it, demand it, earn it. Let her feel it's important, let her feel that the love she abundantly, endlessly and selflessly extends is her most special gift to you, not something you can do without or just take for granted.

The "why": Because when you do these little things she knows that she's remembered, that she's always present in your heart and soul, that she's cared about and cherished, and that's what really matters. She has to see her worth in your eyes, you have to show her how special she is to you, how she's your rare pearl that you've stumbled upon on the shore of life and decided to keep till the end of time, your once-lost treasure that you've finally found and plan to never lose or ever let go of again.

Just love her truly, love her passionately and show it in the "little things".

Правила ухода за собой

1. Плоский живот — мечта всех девушек. Но мало кто знает, что с помощью упражнений для укрепления пресса невозможно добиться его идеального состояния. Для безупречного животика полезны втягивания, таким образом ты тренируешь мышцы лучше всего.
2. Больше ходи пешком! Прогулки творят чудеса, делая форму ног великолепной.
3. Если ты приняла решение заниматься в зале, не забывай делать растяжку после тренировки. Растяжка сохраняет гибкость мышц и милые очертания женской фигуры.
4. Пей воду по утрам! После 2 стаканов воды можно приступать к завтраку — так ты точно не переешь.
5. Ложка оливкового масла перед завтраком очень полезна для женщин. Масло не только хорошо влияет на состояние кожи и волос, но и помогает нормализации менструального цикла.
6. Никогда не пей воду или чай сразу после еды! Дай пище перевариться в течение 40 минут, а уже потом балуй себя напитками. Так стенки желудка не будут растягиваться.
7. Для ускорения метаболизма ешь часто, но понемногу. В идеале — 5 раз в день.
8. Регулярно посещай сауну — это очень полезно для кожи.
9. Не ешь перед сном 3–4 часа, чтобы пища успела перевариться.
10. После 16:00 ешь только белковую пищу. Углеводы в это время суток неизбежно превращаются в жир.
11. Принимай контрастный душ, и ты даже не узнаешь, что такое целлюлит! Кроме того, эта процедура очень хорошо закаливает силу воли.
12. Жуй пищу как можно медленнее. Это не только разгоняет метаболизм и помогает надолго оставаться сытым. Тщательно пережеванная пища легче переваривается и не превращается в лишний вес!
13. Ешь медленно. Чувство сытости наступает только спустя 20 минут после еды, не забывай!
14. Отучи себя есть перед телевизором и с книгой. Это способствует набору веса! Преврати прием пищи в целую церемонию — пользуйся столовыми приборами, сиди за столом прямо, не отвлекайся на посторонние дела. Ты будешь съедать намного меньше!
15. Внезапный приступ голода победить легко: отвлекайся! Сделай 20 приседаний, прими ванну, посмотри на красивую одежду… Посмотри в зеркало и реши, можешь ли ты позволить себе лишний бутерброд или конфету.
16. Не засиживайся перед компьютером! Через каждые полчаса делай упражнения — качай пресс, приседай, отжимайся, прыгай на скакалке. Эффект не заставит себя ждать.
17. Чем больше ты занимаешься спортом, тем меньше тебе хочется есть! Парадокс, но это правда — когда организм переходит в стадию активной выработки энергии, он использует свои внутренние ресурсы и не так сильно нуждается в их постоянном пополнении.
18. Выпивай стакан воды каждый час, и ты не заметишь, как похудеешь! Вода обеспечивает молодость кожи, помогает морщинкам разгладиться и способствует выведению токсинов из организма.
19. Научись ненавидеть сигареты и алкоголь так же сильно, как не любишь отвислые бока и некрасиво торчащий живот. То же самое относится к чипсам, сладким газированным напиткам и фастфуду.
20. Будь осторожна с орехами и маслом — это очень калорийные продукты. Старайся есть не больше 10 орешков в день, заправляй салаты маслом умеренно.
21. Забудь о картошке! В этом продукте нет даже намека на пользу.
22. Ешь поменьше хлеба. Позволяя себе хлеб, ограничивай употребление других продуктов.
23. Пей чай без сахара. Это очень полезная привычка, чай положительно действует на организм. Но только если в паре с ним не идет сахар и печенье…

‪#‎ReaderSubmission‬ by Genefe Navilon

There will always be that one boy, the one you almost had. No matter how many souls you fall in love with, how many hands you’ve held, how many lips you’ve kissed, there will always be one. He’ll be there, at the back of your mind, tucked under the layers of scar tissue that so long ago have healed. He’ll be laced with regrets, nostalgia and melancholy. He’ll be a beautiful memory that will always tinge your heart with just the right amount of love and pain. And always, always, when you conjure him up in front of your eyes, your mouth will turn up into the saddest smile.

"Epilogue" by Eli Ana

I hope you are doing well in your life. I do not need updates, we might go to deeper conversation, this is not for this.

I am writing because I do not need an answer from you

I am writing because I want to close the story

I am writing to you to say I am sorry and I forgive you

We were both in love

Both right and wrong

both angry and cruel

both remembering happy and sad moments

both never able to forget

Now I am done. Memories don't bring me pain any more, only nice feelings of whatever has happened, because it has happened to me and joined the line of amazing stories of my life.

Only thing I regret is losing you as a person, a friend, who was always ready to answer, empathize and listen, person who lied a lot to stay with me.

I always believed we met at a very wrong time in our lives.

This is not true, we met at the most right time as we needed each other: you were like a mirror to me, I saw my flaws, I tried to change my boundaries, I tried to be me. Thanks for this.

Let's not be sorry for loving each other at least for a moment.

Maybe we meet in next life, or maybe we did in our past lives. But for now I just want to tell you that I am sorry and I forgive you.

May nice memories enlighten your heart.